Millions of people in the world struggle with depression. Both women and men may suffer in silence. But it is often harder to notice the signs in men. Societal norms make it more difficult for men to speak openly about their struggles. They may hide their emotions or brush them off around others. Society teaches men to be “tough.” Therefore, men may mask these signs until they become overbearing. Depression in men often goes untreated.

This blog will help you recognize what depression can look like in men. It will also explore why it is often missed and ways to support the men in our lives.

Why Depression in Men Is Often Overlooked

According to the New York State Office of Mental Health, depression in men often looks different than in women. Women may express sadness more openly. On the other hand, men might show signs of irritation. This is partly because it may feel less “manly” to express their emotions. Their sadness may turn into aggression, irritability, or anger. Some men turn to drug or alcohol use. Other signs include risky behavior or overworking to avoid dealing with their depression. These actions hide their depression, making it harder to notice or treat.

A study shared by New York University Langone Health (NYU Langone Health) states that more than 50 percent of the time, physicians miss diagnosing depression in men. This may be because men often view depression as a sign of weakness. These beliefs can prevent them from seeking help or even noticing their own symptoms. Over time, depression can worsen. This can lead to worse mental and physical health.

NYU Langone Health also reports that while women with depression are more likely to attempt suicide, men are more likely to die by suicide. This highlights how overlooked symptoms in men can have serious consequences.

Common Symptoms in Men

Symptoms of depression in men may look different than in women. They might show different signs and feelings caused by depression and societal norms. According to the Mayo Clinic and the New York State Office of Mental Health, common symptoms include:

• Feeling sad, empty, or hopeless
• Losing interest in family, work, or hobbies
• Low sexual desire or performance issues
• Anger, irritability, or restlessness
• Abusing alcohol or drugs
• Engaging in risky behavior
• Thoughts of suicide
• Physical symptoms like stomach issues, pain, or headaches
• Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
• Changes in sleep (too much or too little)
• Changes in appetite or weight
• Withdrawing from loved ones

These signs may not apply to all men. Some may note slight behavior or health changes. For example, they might start showing more irritability. Men may also show a decline in personal hygiene. Others may also avoid certain responsibilities or seem more tired. It can look very different across all men. But these symptoms are signs that something is affecting their mental wellbeing.

Barriers to Getting Help

It can be hard for men to seek help. Some may be in denial of their current state of mind. Or, they are embarrassed or frightened to find the help they need. Men may worry about other people’s reactions. They might believe that sharing their struggles can be a sign of weakness. This fear of judgment can lead to worsening symptoms.

Some men might also avoid the fact that they are depressed. They may only worry about physical symptoms like fatigue or pain. They might share these symptoms with their doctor without realizing it is depression. This can make diagnosis more difficult for doctors.

Mental health awareness in men should be more prominent. This can help men feel less overwhelmed in finding help. Men need to know that depression is a medical condition and not a weakness. The stigma of seeking help needs to change so men can feel less pressure about asking for help.

How to Support Men with Depression

Awareness is key to helping men with depression. It is important to notice small signs and changes that are unusual. If you notice a man in your life is showing signs like irritability, increased drinking, or withdrawal, consider reaching out.

According to NYU Langone Health, here are a few ways to help:

• Start a conversation: Choose a quiet, safe space. Let him know you care and are there for him.
• Listen without judgment: Listen carefully. Sometimes, just listening can make a big difference.
• Encourage treatment: Offer sources and help to find a doctor or go with him to an appointment for support.
• Be patient: Remind him that healing and treatment takes time. Let him know that he is not alone and that you will always be there to support him along the way.

Therapy can help restructure their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a fantastic option for men to change negative thinking patterns. It is a gradual process that can provide coping skills. But ultimately, it can lead to better wellness. Prescribed medicine along with therapy can further help this process. Lifestyle changes like exercise, better sleep, and healthy eating can also help.

When to Seek Help Right Away

If someone talks about hurting themselves or suicide, take it seriously. Contact a mental health provider, dial 911, or call a crisis hotline. In the U.S., you can reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. There is also a toll-free suicide hotline for Spanish speakers at 1-888-628-9454. These services are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Visit Clinicas

At Clinicas del Camino Real Inc., your mental wellness is just as important as your physical health. We offer Mental Health Care Services to help support your mental health. Our team is trained to support a wide range of mental health symptoms and conditions.

You do not have to fight this battle alone. If you or your loved ones are showing signs of depression, reach out to Clinicas today.